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Intergalacti...	Date: July 27, 2005 @ 12:13 PM Ok I can't believe I'm doing this I'm lookin for advice on the internet Right I'm sorta seein this girl that I like but not tonnes, there are other girls I prefer, She says she likes me quite a bit and we're headin out to catch a movie later in the week. I know I'm a dick for all the ladies reading but I've kinda been avoiding her cos I don't reallyu know what to do or say (I am still quite young give me a chance).
Intergalacti...	Date: July 27, 2005 @ 12:15 PM Sorry accidently pressed enter... ... anyway I was gonna tell her recently but she just told me her nan died and she's feelin shitty about it and that apparently I was the only one she could talk to.... HELP! I don't wanna hurt her gfeelings anymore than they already might be from her nan but I don't wanna leave her dangling cos its ridiculous the situation we're in.
DeadraveN	Date: July 27, 2005 @ 12:15 PM Go ask sinai for advice, he's quite the ladies' man...
imemine	Date: July 27, 2005 @ 12:18 PM Yea, Sinai is the man! Introduce her to fisting!
freddemillio	Date: July 27, 2005 @ 12:34 PM 73 percent of what I know about women, I learned from Sinai. I took his "Fisting as an Ice Breaker" accelerated web-learning course and you can see where that has got me!
zedsalt	Date: July 27, 2005 @ 12:43 PM Leading her on would be worse than breaking bad news to her at a bad time, I would think. Just make sure to let her know that you're still willing to be there when she needs someone to talk to (assuming you are). And don't put your fist into her if you're not really "into her"; that would just complicate matters.
GTOriginal	Date: July 27, 2005 @ 12:47 PM Sounds like the whole "My nan just died and you are the only one I can talk to" is a classic manipulative statement designed to prevent you from doing something that may hurt her feelings, like being honest, for example. Girls are taught how to manipulate boys with nifty tools like this in the sixth grade, where they have a special class just for that sorta thing. Anyway, watch out for "teaming behavior", if she starts talking in terms of "we" it's time to head for the hills. Example: You sneeze, she says "Do we have a little cold, aww". This is a sure sign she's moving in for the kill any second. If you start thinking in terms of "we" you're a goner. Tell you what the Mrs. pulled that number on me in 1987. Enough said there. Well I gotta go, seems like I have a book to write or something. Good luck brother, hope the advice helps. Uncle GT
LostYears	Date: July 27, 2005 @ 4:54 PM well gt's right once u becomes we ur fucked... and not in that way. ......... i would say that the best way to handle this would b to separate urselves to friends status as smoothly and as soon as possible... i know this works many girls have used this on me to erase all chance of anything... unless completely hammered
onewhodreams	Date: July 27, 2005 @ 5:10 PM IG - there's only one right thing to do... tell the truth. Be nice about it, buy her lunch or something, but just tell her that you don't want to waste her time or yours and that it's best to be honest about it. Tell her you are sorry for her Nan, maybe even bring her some , but don't string her along because you fear hurting her. Step up and learn to be a man now while you're still young.
NadaVanNie	Date: July 27, 2005 @ 6:43 PM Hehe, Gary, where did you go to school? You're so funny Have to agree with what most people said, tell the truth. It's only gonna hurt more if she finds out later. Ow and Diane, telling what he needs to do and bringing her flowers and buying her lunch, isn't that an easy way to send mixed signals/messages?
onewhodreams	Date: July 27, 2005 @ 6:57 PM Well well...lookie who's here in the forums! The were 'cuz of her Nan dying, so I don't think that would be a mixed msg, for me anyway.
sinai	Date: July 27, 2005 @ 7:08 PM yeah, obviously you can't shit on her too hard in the same week she's gonna be a pallbearer... but the guys are right, women do the same thing all the time, push men into the friend zone to let them know whats up... the easiest and least hurtful way i've found to do this is to express interest in another girl in her presence in fact, ask HER advice on how to approach another girl gets your point across without an uncomfortable conversation or, if you wanna throw the ball into her court, show up drunk at her house at 2 am asking if she wants to watch the new Cum Shitting Whores 6 you just bought
DeadraveN	Date: July 27, 2005 @ 11:06 PM See, what'd I tell you? The guy's smooth...
redrasta	Date: July 28, 2005 @ 6:37 PM Date: July 27, 2005 @ 12:15 PM Go ask sinai for advice, he's quite the ladies' man... LMMFAO!!!!!!! I'm his wife, and I'm telling you...if it was up to him, we'd still be talking online from different sides of the pond. Of course, if you can get him in a semi-serious moment, he has the best and most down-to-earth advice you could ask for. That, and if you need to borrow a copy of Cum Shitting Whores 6, he's yer man. I've never been so happy.
GeneHilbert	Date: July 29, 2005 @ 12:55 AM LOL.......... Honesty is always the best policy. Pick the right moment when you're both alone to let her down easily. Take her by the hands - take a deep long breathe let it out easily - look into longing and gentle eyes and then tell her you're gay....
sinai	Date: July 29, 2005 @ 5:10 AM ...though if your gonna go that route, leave fisting and cum shitting out of it... scar the poor thing
Svensta	Date: July 29, 2005 @ 8:50 AM But what's homosexuality without fisting? My brother-in-law will be lost to hear of this.
TameasDust	Date: July 29, 2005 @ 12:39 PM Welll you could plan the whole night's conversation ... what you say ... what she says ... ... been there done that ... can we say BORING ... Be yourself ... actively listen to her ... tell her your not sure what to do or say ... listen to her advice ... treat her like a friend FIRST \, the other stuff can come later but if yah don't like them enough to be a friend WHAT THE HECK ARE YOU DOING WITH THEM then? Anywho ... I also met my lady online and we are two parts of a whole. Best friends and total lovers ... heck we even like each other As for me ... I actively listen and care about what the other is talking about ... of course having a sexy voice that women love to listen to ... even when I am as boring as a old tree stump ... is a plus If your going to a movie ... watch the dang movie ... she might just want to have the company of someone SHE ALREADY LIKES AND FEELS COMFORTABLE WITH along to share the experience with her
chrismacmanus	Date: July 29, 2005 @ 1:05 PM Play it by ear and see how it goes. If you end up going through several boxes of condoms, and one for the morning and then decide that you don't like her - that's when things get a bit more complicated - or maybe you're aiming for that?
arekestall	Date: July 29, 2005 @ 1:46 PM punch her in the face, run, and hope she got the message and doesn't press charges. or sleep with her dad and crap in her bed.
Intergalacti...	Date: July 29, 2005 @ 7:29 PM Hahaha some legendary posts lads and lasses thanks for the advice. Ok so I just got back from the movie and she invited me out I said no and lied my ass off sayin I'm goin out with the boys(it was an early movie) Earlier I think she did use the word we. Not that I wasn't listening I was just tryin not to listen. She was sayin about how I never see her, did I miss my chance to tell her it aint workin? I did tel her earlier in the night that I won't be able to see her fr about a week and a half because a girl I met on the internet is comin over to see me and I'm gonna be spendin some time with her. (I didn't say that theres gonna be stuff goin on between us cos she seemed mad enough that I wasnt gonna see her anyway). The annoying thing is we are great as friends cos we spent most of the nmight just chattin and hangin out rather than ya know beatin all over eachother if ya know what I mean. Shall I simply tell her I jsut wanna be friends straight away or explain that to her after the week and a half of not seein her? p.s. hehe good to see redrasta and sinai are gettin along happily. much love for both you guys
redrasta	Date: July 29, 2005 @ 11:12 PM awwww Dude...just tell her one way or another before this gets too far. Seriously...much as us wimmin hate getting hurt, just like anyone else.... We hate finding out that everyone else could see that the guy didnt wanna be more than friends, and he just didnt bother telling us. A good friendship will outlast a minor obstacle like one person wanting more when the other doesnt. Bite the bullet, andbe honest as you need to be without being brutal.
kyodylee	Date: July 29, 2005 @ 11:19 PM Just point her to this page and let her read it.
ChillinBuzz	Date: July 29, 2005 @ 11:22 PM hang on, you got another lady coming over? you used the damn "lad" excuse once when you couldve scored TWICE in TWO WEEKS with TWO WOMEN? are you a man?
ChillinBuzz	Date: July 29, 2005 @ 11:24 PM make a note of what i said and delete it before letting her read this... sorry kyodylee, i didnt read what you said
sinai	Date: July 30, 2005 @ 3:08 AM also, all women are bisexual by nature, so you should try to get the two girls together with ya... have yourself a night of all nights...
pog	Date: July 30, 2005 @ 4:47 AM I say if she likes you and you like her, then why don't you work on something you DO have, rather than something you MAY have... I may be wrong, because you didn't really go into much detail, but if you are considering going for a model, when there's a nice girl there that likes you, you're most likely setting yourself up for a big fall and the result will end up being ... nothing. You'll end up a lonely person.
chrismacmanus	Date: July 30, 2005 @ 1:10 PM Why not just go for it and see how it works out - you might be pleasantly suprised
Intergalacti...	Date: July 30, 2005 @ 3:48 PM Daymne decisions suck, I hope I die bnefore I get old.
orgasmotron	Date: July 30, 2005 @ 4:04 PM get really drunk with her and let jesus sort it out for you.
chrismacmanus	Date: July 31, 2005 @ 10:08 AM ^^ I don't think it's Jesus talking after a few too many beers, but there's an good chance of a res-erection in that state
BedroomSessions	Date: August 2, 2005 @ 2:39 PM i disagree about having a go at it. you want to find someone who pushes all your buttons, just takes some of us a while to find them. sure it MAY work out, but thats no basis for a relationship. it should be exciting not like , meh lets see how long we can stick this for. and for fucks sake be honest with her, its just not fair
just2ska	Date: August 2, 2005 @ 2:59 PM just tell her you want to be JSUT FRIENDS, not hard. andy
Snoogans775	Date: August 2, 2005 @ 3:02 PM you said, "miss your chance", the way you're approaching, you've got her in complete control of the timing, you need to create a situatuaion between the two of ya's, like Onewhodreams, though now, a lunch would be like a second date, here's my prescription if this goes too far and you can't pull any honesty out tell here, YOU are having problems, and YOU aren't prepared to do anything, I mean you're an artist right? If she has any understanding of creative people, she blame herself for having picked one of the crazy people.
Snoogans775	Date: August 2, 2005 @ 3:02 PM just so she doesn't care, most likely very little guilt will be transferred
JennisEvil	Date: August 23, 2005 @ 3:20 PM lmfaoooo PLZZZZZZZZZ us women arent all that fragile just step to her and be honest ... best to get it out of the way then carry it on ... feelings are ment to be hurt every now and then ... shows us how strong we can be ... and trust me im a rather strong woman myself for the BS that men have put me through ... but i have always admired them for being honest ... and in time she will let it go and friendship if strong enough will last through a petty crush ... thats just my advice ... ahhhhhh now whurrs my drink ** BAR KEEP!!*
gimpnipples	Date: August 23, 2005 @ 3:23 PM be careful... iwas manipulated when i was younger by a woman that used those kinda emotional blackmail techniques like "oh your the only one I can talk to etc..." it took me three years of sheer boredom and hell to work it out doh!
Intergalacti...	Date: August 23, 2005 @ 3:41 PM Lol cheers everyone I sorted this out a while ago I simply told her not in the best of places we were in a bar and I made sure I was sober so she couldn't have a go at me or anythin and then I would have started ranting at her. Things are still a bit shitty but we're better as friends so I expect us to be soon. Blessings to all that helped