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Do you believe there is only one real love in life??

xbluesteel	Date: February 20, 2005 @ 1:19 PM Do you believe there is only one real love in life??
sinai	Date: February 20, 2005 @ 7:10 PM nope
AnatomizingA...	Date: February 20, 2005 @ 11:38 PM I think there is to much lust. People don't know what love is anymore... at least the majority.. and others just want to be in love so badly, that they pretend they are or tell themselves so much that they are indeed in love and have found the true person til they start believing it. So who knows anymore. Life is fucked
WhyteKym	Date: February 21, 2005 @ 3:20 AM I think they're are many true loves one can have, but i think their is only one person you're meant to share the rest of your life with. True love always has a happy ending, If it doesn't look too happy then it's either not true love or it's not yet the end.
Svensta	Date: February 21, 2005 @ 8:13 AM Love for a person? or a passion in life? Person-wise, there is no such thing as 'only one' Passionwise, most people find it that way; there is one passion that supercedes all other passions.
YaBoyDrew	Date: February 24, 2005 @ 1:30 AM I think its as many as you make it U could fall in love with everybody and disagree OR have one true love and agree. I think it all depends on the person, Steel.
JudgeMental	Date: February 24, 2005 @ 4:50 AM I get round the problem by only having one real love at a time...dunt stop me changing my mind from time to time
rhthesinner	Date: February 24, 2005 @ 11:14 AM "Music was my first and it will be my last..."
Intergalacti...	Date: February 24, 2005 @ 2:03 PM I don't believe it but it certainly seems that way in my life at the moment
T-Boi	Date: February 24, 2005 @ 2:42 PM Depends with your love life of course
ICF	Date: February 24, 2005 @ 3:21 PM Haha yeah, what T-Boi said!
Cryxan	Date: February 24, 2005 @ 5:17 PM Nah. Some are better than others, but I'll never believe that there's only one.
Veracohr	Date: February 24, 2005 @ 9:30 PM Sure hope not.
leplume	Date: March 22, 2005 @ 9:10 PM No, because I love Little Debbie Oatmeal Creme Cookies but I also love Hostess Cupcakes. So that proves there are only two real loves in life.
sinai	Date: March 22, 2005 @ 9:54 PM is it out of line to say i love, erm, Ho-Hos
wet1	Date: March 23, 2005 @ 2:32 AM Love many, trust few... always paddle your own canoe.
Svensta	Date: March 23, 2005 @ 7:50 AM RH bears me out, I think. Object passions tend to be more singular, more unique. People, well, there's just so damn MANY of them, right?
leplume	Date: March 23, 2005 @ 2:46 PM Yes, but only a few select Ho-Hos.
GTLive	Date: March 23, 2005 @ 10:39 PM Yes only one love. It may find many targets over time, but it's still the same one. Hell some of those targets even fire back at you so watch out. Duck and cover. All's fair in love and war. These things are grouped together for a reason
TheFearDrone	Date: March 24, 2005 @ 12:01 AM I believe in true love....still. I also believe that the 'one' is out there, somwhere. The question: Will I find her within this lifetime??
Hatsy	Date: March 24, 2005 @ 4:39 AM You can love many people in life but there is only one other with whom you can be in love forever. Miss that one and you'll always be searching...
zedsalt	Date: March 24, 2005 @ 11:16 AM Lordamighty, that's a depressing thought, Treebone! I've had a few people in my life that made me feel like everything and everyone in my life had been there to prepare me for THAT one relationship (including their predecessors in making me feel the same way). And I still have feelings for a couple gals that I REALLY wish I could feel otherwise about. This seems to gel with the common opinion in pro' psych' circles: men tend to fall in love more quickly and completely than women, and most men aren't capable of "falling out of love", no matter how badly they may wish to. I think the real problem isn't the difference so much as the fact that there IS a general difference.
Izekial	Date: March 24, 2005 @ 5:43 PM I think for SOME people there can be only one... sort of like Highlander. Others can give their heart away more than once, break it up into little piece to protect themselves against loneliness or failure. I'm one of those people that can have only one love, unfortunately. I wasn't looking for my current boyfriend (I wasn't even gay before I met him, hadn't even entertained the idea and I'm 25), wasn't looking for ANYONE, but we ended up falling in love anyway. I think I'm like that because it takes a very rare, bizarre, almost impossible personality to clash properly with mine. My moods and interests fluctuate horribly. I'm a horrible person in general. It takes someone with a lot of patience or someone who WANTS to understand me. There are good sides to me, like how I'm firmly devoted to my lover or how I have a seemingly endless supply of affections for who I'm with, but I'm always flipping out or having doubts or I'm constantly waiting to be crushed or disappointed... and I voice these doubts... a lot. I think the guy I'm with could be the one: He never falters when handling my insecurities. No matter what I do, what I say, anything, he takes it all in perfect stride. If it doesn't work with him, I'm done. I told him that, too. I'll never find anyone like him ever again. But I'd also like to add real quick that it isn't a terrible thing to be alone. I was alone and happy before I met him, but I guess it just depends on the person...
zedsalt	Date: March 25, 2005 @ 11:00 AM First off, Izekial, congratulations; not having a special someone in my life right now, I can't help but be a little envious. I can't imagine what I'd think/feel if my special someone turned out to be a guy, and I don't think I'm quite as tough to get along with as you claim to be (somehow, I doubt you are, either)...all of your exacerbating factors give me hope, though. One clarification, though, if you would. In the second line of your post, are you referring to one AT a time or one in a LIFETIME? I recognize that the former doesn't really apply to everyone, even though it does to me, a "serial monogamist". I don't necessarily consider that a more noble trait; the only reason I seek it out in others is compatibilty.
Izekial	Date: March 25, 2005 @ 8:13 PM I meant one in a lifetime, yeah... I’m very monogamous too, to the point where I’d pretty much be celibate if I wasn’t seeing someone. I really do think there’s someone for everyone, though. I wish that didn’t sound so cheesy... I just believe that because of how eccentric I am, yet I have a significant other. Good luck finding that special person...
sinai	Date: March 25, 2005 @ 8:15 PM in terms of staying faithful, its wise to try and remember each time your tempted to cheat why you married you're spouse in the first place.
milesov	Date: March 26, 2005 @ 2:10 AM my guitars promised to never leave me, phew!
Hatsy	Date: April 3, 2005 @ 8:37 PM A really interesting thread I wonder what we'd all say back here in about five years
AgentMGD	Date: April 26, 2005 @ 11:00 AM no struggling between two suitors both asked for my hand in marriage oh the decisions i must make before defecting to London in Decemeber Brits are such charmers kiss
Svensta	Date: April 26, 2005 @ 12:23 PM How odd to walk into a Thought for the Day thread and see something serious from Sigh Nigh. He makes a good point. Perhaps the inability to remain 'in love' with someone is NOT an indicator of there being only one singular solitary real love object, but instead an example of a personal failing?
TameasDust	Date: April 26, 2005 @ 12:36 PM If your love is your best friend too then yah got it made ... If not then when the sex becomes boring your toast
BOWILLIE	Date: April 26, 2005 @ 1:08 PM very deep subject...soul mates..the one true love..i found mine..as did deb..i had a reacurring dream about flying on a plane...never had flown before in my life..my employer of several years was in this dream..it was snowing..and he was seeing me off at the terminal..the same dream three or four times..i met deb in georgia..due to a goverment contract we were working on at fort stewart..knew her for a very short time..until having to move on to minot airforce base in north dakota.and did indeed fly back to her under the same exact circumstances as my dream..she had dreams about meeting a long haired blonde blue eyed man in a black hat wich i fit that description to a t..any way..we've been together for 12 years..with out as much as a major argument..small silly stuff..but nothing stressfull..still got my hat too!
jessa1561	Date: April 26, 2005 @ 2:28 PM You can more than one person, but you only have ONE true Love.
invocati	Date: April 26, 2005 @ 4:23 PM There is always that one person who always stands out in ones mind
furiousBall	Date: April 26, 2005 @ 4:26 PM I think said it best... "Baby you know, you're the one for me And all that I want to be is... You and me... and her, simultaneous You and me... and you and you, simultaneous Simultaneous lovin' baby, two or three... Simultaneous ooh, come on Have an open mind, blow my trigger down Gimme the last cold turkey blast, make it fast Take my ass to town Have an open mind, send my cares away Ring my bell you fat piggy whale, what the hell Today's your lucky day You and me... and her, simultaneous You and me... and Wynona Rider, simultaneous Simultaneous lovin' baby, two or three... Simultaneous, ooh, come on Have an open mind, is a normal thing to do Don't be rude, just get nude Oh, you're being rude, I would do it for you Baby please have an open mind, you're the only one I love These girls you see, baby they don't mean anything, let's all just get in the tub You and me... and her too, simultaneous You and me... and your momma and your sister Simultaneous lovin' baby, two or three... Simultaneous oww, come on Everybody in the pool! Have an open mind, don't be so mean to me Call your sister and your mother and your aunt It's every man's fantasy Have an open... woa, baby, put that knife away Don't be mad, I'll take you back, just relax, we can make love your way I'm talking about You and me... and some flowers and some wine, instantaneous You and me... and Whitney Houston (on the radio, babe, on the radio) Some candles and some good feelings Just the two of us Oh, fudge it Now, I'm talking about You and me... and her and her and her, simultaneous You and me... and women in the house, simultaneous Three and seven, make it a baker's dozen See the ladies in the house clap your hands Now that'd be a party, ladies"
wailingmiserere	Date: April 28, 2005 @ 12:22 PM I think so, at the moment. Hopefully I will be proved wrong at some point in the future.
victorsskull	Date: April 28, 2005 @ 12:25 PM no comment
warmguns	Date: April 28, 2005 @ 10:00 PM Yes I do, cause I thought I knew what love was a few times, but when I met my wife-to-be I stopped thinking, I really knew, it was easy.
IefIaw	Date: April 28, 2005 @ 10:06 PM I'll plead the fifth. Actually, I think I'll drink one
koiulpoi	Date: April 29, 2005 @ 5:35 PM If there's only one love in life, i'm pretty much screwed over. And not in a good way.
TameasDust	Date: April 29, 2005 @ 9:05 PM you don't need love to get screwed , but any love that doesn't last cause you were too much of an asshole, wasn't meant to be anyway ... Fore for every asshole there is a person
azhazhellfire	Date: April 30, 2005 @ 7:08 AM if there's only one real love then the majority of people arn't going to find it. if you're not distracted from them by their possible ugliness or mismatched age then the shear impossibility of the two of you finding each other in a world of 6 billion will be your downfall. love is a survival mechanism stemming from the need for families of humans to stick together in order to survive in a world dominated by predators. if there was only one true love we wouldn't be the dominant species on this planet. if alive at all.
jordanthegreat	Date: April 30, 2005 @ 8:26 AM there is only one love, love itself, either start loving it or leave it. But really.... not that i know anything about love but i think true love happens over and over again, just takes a few times to recognize it as such.
kingo	Date: April 30, 2005 @ 10:10 AM - Kingo Sleemer Institute for Advanced Human Folly Studies Budapest, Hungary" id="133196">There actually, factually, exist exactly 4.3732 loves for each reciprocating human. Left to pure chance, the odds of any two of those people so-matched finding one another are very small, considering that they can be distributed by great distances in time as well as space, and that often corresponding loves are not the sex the person in question thinks he or she is interested in and so can easily be dismissed out of hand. However, there is more than pure chance at play -- anywhere between .083 and 1.79 of the matched loves are always placed within close proximity (temporal and spatial) of one another at some significant point in the lives of those individuals. Of course numerous questions are raised by this strange revelation. If these people are "placed" in such a way that they are near to each other at some point in their lives, who's doing the placing? It's as if the rules were laid out and it was decided that the odds were simply too high, and so this "proximity clause" was added as an afterthought. Also: how is it that some people so readily recognize their loves, while others spin wildly through their lives without ever having any clear idea that they've at some point blindly missed their oppurtunity for happiness? We do not yet have all of the answers, but we are furiously searching. - Kingo Sleemer Institute for Advanced Human Folly Studies Budapest, Hungary
jordanthegreat	Date: April 30, 2005 @ 11:15 AM that sounds ridiculous to be honest but good luck in your pursuit, i send my love. "how can it be that oblivious to the self?"
kingo	Date: April 30, 2005 @ 11:43 AM Now I've stepped back and seen it through the eyes of another. You're correct. I am disbanding the Institute. It's not worth it. - Kingo Sleemer Institute for Advanced Human Folly Studies Budapest, Hungary
DeadraveN	Date: April 30, 2005 @ 7:43 PM I had and lost my one true love, the one that completed my being, and I'll forever compare the rest to her. I am however, ready and willing to share my remaining time here with another, provided they could understand and accept that they would/could never replace her in my heart. Um, put simply, I agree that for some there is only one 'true' love, but that doesn't mean we can't still feel love for others...
azhazhellfire	Date: May 1, 2005 @ 6:28 AM you emotional pussy. go read some maddox.
jordanthegreat	Date: May 1, 2005 @ 9:13 AM maddox can slice his wrists for me twicely, his ideas of suicide are completely generic, what a twat.
DeadraveN	Date: May 1, 2005 @ 4:38 PM Name calling, hellfire? real mature. Mocking others only shows your own insecurity. as for your thoughts regarding love and it's place in survival, well, love isn't really needed for reproduction. From what I've seen those are two seperate topics...
zedsalt	Date: May 2, 2005 @ 11:47 AM All too often, DeadraveN, all too often...
azhazhellfire	Date: May 4, 2005 @ 6:37 AM yeah sorry about the asshattishness. i wasn't in a caring mood. well actually i never am. it was more like a right bastard mood. although i stand by what i said about love and its place. i wasn't at all saying that love is necessary for reproduction. i'm saying it gives us an _edge_ over other species in that two in love are gonna be much better at raising a child for the following reasons: 1. they're less likely to split up. if they split up especially earlier on in the child's life, the child has a significantly decreased chance of survival. 2. in a deadly situation one in love is likely to sacrifice a lot to help his child. possibly even his life. without that the father (or even mother) might get the hell out of there, again decreasing the chance of a successful offspring. i'm sure there's a load more. i'll think of them some other time. and i'm certain there's plenty more purposes for love within a small primitive tribe aswell that give humans a massive edge over any clan/species.
azhazhellfire	Date: May 4, 2005 @ 6:39 AM and maddox's ideas for suicide kicks ass. if i ever decide that my asskicking days are over, i'll eat a tub full of beans.
DeadraveN	Date: May 4, 2005 @ 7:05 PM hmm, there's an intersting thought. Some animals find a mate and stay with that mate 'till death. Some fornicate and then never call, so to speak. I wonder how that affects the survival rate. (?) Is this off topic? I'm tired...
azhazhellfire	Date: May 5, 2005 @ 1:23 AM i didn't get your point there.
DeadraveN	Date: May 5, 2005 @ 2:17 AM Well, it's kind of a tangent thought, but do you think that animals that stay monogomous (sp?) with one partner have a higher or lower survival rate than those that don't? oh, btw, where can I find this 'maddox'? It sounds like a fun read...
azhazhellfire	Date: May 5, 2005 @ 3:52 AM http://maddox.xmission.com - just don't take any of it seriously. no. i'm saying the offspring of a monogomous pair have higher chances of survival.
azhazhellfire	Date: May 5, 2005 @ 3:53 AM http://maddox.xmission.com - just don't take any of it seriously. no. i'm saying the offspring of a monogomous pair have higher chances of survival.
azhazhellfire	Date: May 5, 2005 @ 6:25 AM damn double posts.
zedsalt	Date: May 5, 2005 @ 1:02 PM From what I've read, monogamy doesn't have a substantial effect on survival rates and neither does the amount of time and effort wild animals put into parenting. I don't really understand how this can be, but it's a fact I've heard from a number of quality sources. Monogamy and a long weening period have an effect that hovers around pure chance, yet survival rates DO have a marked effect on birthrates. It's a weird world.
DeadraveN	Date: May 5, 2005 @ 6:16 PM Wouldn't it be funny if people were like turtles, and we just pumped out as many babies as we could, and left them stranded on a beach to fend for themselves? Damn discovery channel's warped my mind....
jordanthegreat	Date: May 5, 2005 @ 6:19 PM i'd laugh if we were all rabbits
koiulpoi	Date: May 5, 2005 @ 6:39 PM I know plenty of people who do it like rabbits.
leplume	Date: May 5, 2005 @ 9:04 PM :rabbit:
DeadraveN	Date: May 5, 2005 @ 9:56 PM wanna hear a song about rabbits? Go to www.soundclick.com/bands/9/deadravenmusic (i gotta learn how to make links in here)
DigWeed	Date: May 5, 2005 @ 10:03 PM One Love.. The Truth. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sufism#The_word_Sufism
furiousBall	Date: May 5, 2005 @ 10:12 PM i believe the children are the furniture
DeadraveN	Date: May 5, 2005 @ 11:13 PM so, you have to move them to vaccuum?
leplume	Date: May 6, 2005 @ 1:03 AM Nah, just velcro the little suckers to the walls.
Izekial	Date: May 6, 2005 @ 7:55 PM I got it! I know how you can identify your true love. While naked, can you explore each other's junk. Not sexually, but in a playful, idiotic way. Like, “Are these your genitals?” Then tickle them. Your comfort is total, whole, in other words. Also, if you subconsciously pay attention to everything they say and remember all the minute details without noticing, you may have found them.
DigWeed	Date: May 6, 2005 @ 8:22 PM it depends on how they say "Are these your genitals?" ..If the theme shows surprise with disapointment, u may have to reconsider..
Izekial	Date: May 6, 2005 @ 8:58 PM Nah, you could even pretend you're disappointed or disgusted, just as long as you follow up with cuddles or a rim job.
DeadraveN	Date: May 6, 2005 @ 11:45 PM It's probably a good idea to be sure that it is, in fact, your genitals they're inquiring about. If they ask that question while pointing to your toes, for example, you may want to move on...